Where there is no wood, the fire goes out;
And where there is no talebearer, strife ceases.
As charcoal is to burning coals, and wood to fire,
So is a contentious man to kindle strife.
My pondering: Fire has its purpose when controlled. No doubt, conflict is bound to occur when you do almost anything which is bold, new or daring. But we are wise to understand the difference between fodder and principle; between fools and truth seekers.
Any fool can start a fire. A wise man understands when and where it’s purposeful and albeit sometimes inevitable yet he picks his battle fires precisely instead of carelessly, which Smokey would certainly approve.
So if we remove the brush and kindling around us that so easily ignites forest fires in our hearts and others, we all are better off.
Clear the brush!
What more can I say than if believe Him then you will see Him.
The key to success is handling failure.
Handling success does not come naturally to most people. It is an acquired skill. Some of your emotions tell you to sulk and avoid any situations in the future that are likely to put you in line to feel the pain of rejection again. Other emotions tell you to get more out of life for yourself and your loved ones. Concentrate on what you have to gain, and learn how to change your attitude toward rejection.
There are five concepts that have helped me move forward in all areas of my life.
Memorize them and recall them when you’re rejected or have failed to achieve what you wanted.
1. I never see failure as failure, but only as a learning experience. Every sale that doesn’t close is a learning experience; every challenge you face is a learning experience. Look at failure and rejection in a different light — as a learning experience.
2. I never see failure as failure, but only as the negative feedback I need to change course in my direction. Outside a restaurant, I once saw a gentleman who’d had too much to drink to try to unlock his car with the wrong key. No matter how many times he tried, the key didn’t work. After I’d talked to him into taking a taxi home, it occurred to me that sometimes we keep trying to make the wrong key unlock the door to success; keep using techniques that don’t work in our selling endeavors.
It takes some stick-to-it stamina to keep calling the hundred potential clients you have to go through to get your next sale. And, while you’re doing it, you’ll have plenty of learning experiences, plenty of chances to change course in your direction to make your technique more effective.
3. I never see failure as failure, but only as the opportunity to develop my sense of humor. Have you ever had a traumatic experience involving a selling opportunity? Three weeks later, you finally tell someone about it and suddenly that same event is hilarious. The longer you wait to laugh, the more that failure will hold you back. Make a determined effort to laugh sooner, and learn the trick of telling a good story on yourself.
4. I never see failure as failure, but only as an opportunity to practice my techniques and perfect my performance. Every time you present your service to others and they don’t make a decision to “own,” at least they’ve given you a chance to practice. Many people don’t realize the importance of this. Appreciate the opportunity to improve.
5. I never see failure as failure, but only as the game I must play to win. Selling is a game. Life is a game. Both have their rules. Over the years, I’ve discovered that a single rule dominates every situation: Those who risk failure by working with more people, make more money; those who risk less failure, make less.
If you risk failure, sometimes you will fail. But every time you fail, you’re that much closer to success. Success demands its percentage of failure.
Work with the five attitudes toward failure and rejection. What counts isn’t how many transactions fall out, how many people hang up on you, how many things don’t work out, how many people go back on their word. What counts is how many times you pick yourself up, shrug off the failure, learn from it, and keep trying to make things come together.
I went to his boot camp 20 some years ago and he had us memorize this. Good stuff. Some of his techniques might be construed as a bit manipulative but overall outstanding. Take the best, leave the rest.
Which one of the five strategies resonates with you the most?
As astutely written, ‘no man is an island to himself’. We all need help. We all need God. We wouldn’t exist at all and not for long without Him.
Ponder this: He never changes. If you, if I, are not well connected and out of tune, who do you think as moved or fell?
Psa 24:1 — Psa 24:5
The King of Glory and His Kingdom
A Psalm of David.
The earth is the LORD’s, and all its fullness,
The world and those who dwell therein.
For He has founded it upon the seas,
And established it upon the waters.
Who may ascend into the hill of the LORD?
Or who may stand in His holy place?
He who has clean hands and a pure heart,
Who has not lifted up his soul to an idol,
Nor sworn deceitfully.
He shall receive blessing from the LORD,
And righteousness from the God of his salvation.
JESUS is my righteousness!
We should always seek balance though we will never find it perfectly. Just like over exercising, over eating, sleeping too much and even over working can be a problem.
If we think we are too busy to pray and seek God’s council, we are foolish. Sometimes we need to slow down, reflect and relax so that we can get further, not just by our understanding but by tapping into and trusting God. This definently has been an issue for me. God can do more for us in one second than we can for ourselves in a lifetime but God normally wants to work through people for whatever reason He deems so.
Are we not wise to take time to align our thoughts and abide in His power verse trying to do everything in our own limited power?
The Bible and nature can teach us everthing we need to know. Everything else worthy is a supplement and much else is a distraction.
We are recommended to:
and work but not overwork.
What’s your share your experience or take on this?