Clenched Fist, Slack Hand or Cupped Palm?

My Pondering

In life, we have an amount of time, talent and treasure. A certain is gifted by Providence and a certain amount we gain or lose by our skill, and effort.

I think #3 is usually best, but when it come to someone or something is challenging my core values or there is a time to fight, #1 for sure. When dealing with negative toxic people, I am choosing #2.

1) The Clenched Fist

This is the natural reaction for most folks. To hold tight to what they got, even if it’s a little. The biggest problem with this tactic is you can’t gain with this position.

2) The Slack Hand

The issue issue with being a slacker is quite obvious. As a mature, capable adult, you are a bumb in this mode being dependent on other people for your sustenance.

3) The Cupped Palm

Hopefully, you have realize this is the optimum style. In this mode, you can continue to get, save, and give. After all, givers gain most!

Servant Leadership

Jesus was, is and shall forever be the ultimate leader; the ultimate example.

It better to follow Christ alone than lead a thousand worldly men!

Kirk Booher

A good leader is one who has distinct, ‘roles and goals’ in regard to his people. Like the Good Shepherd, he leads, feeds, nurtures, comforts, corrects and protects.

He leads by example, out front, in the middle, supporting from the back. He works with his people.

She feeds her people with quality think food by educating, providing good pay, while praising both effort and results.

He natures his people as they grow in maturity and experience.

She comforts her team when they try and miss, when they extend and fall she helps mend.

He corrects mistakes he makes with humility and authenticity and does the same for other with truth and gentleness. Pointing to the fix not the person.

Lastly, she protects her peeps by creating a positive work culture and environment. She ensures abuse isn’t permitted and trust reigns supreme.

The shepherd of the Lord’s flock leads by modeling godliness and righteousness in his own life and encouraging others to follow his example.

Of course, our ultimate example—and the One we should follow—is Christ Himself. The Apostle Paul understood this and desired to lead first and foremost by example: “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ” (1 Corinthians 11:1). The Christian leader is one who follows Christ and inspires others to follow Him as well.


My Pondering

Whether you are parent, leader, manager, sales person, or professional teacher you teach.

I created this chart to help me teach and hopefully it helps you.

“If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you.
If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.”

Zig Ziglar

7 Biblical Models of Leadership

7 Biblical Models of Leadership

You can learn valuable and unique lessons on leading the church and furthering the gospel from these men of the Bible.

Here are seven whose leadership played a significant role in leading the early church and furthering the gospel.

1. Paul: “Believe in something bigger than yourself.”

“I have appointed you as a light for the Gentiles, to bring salvation to the ends of the earth” (Acts 13:47). Paul thought of himself as nothing in the total scheme of things. He was thoroughly subservient to the will of God, and he was committed to a specific, meaningful mission. Paul had courage in the face of opposition because he had limitless horizons in his mission. He believed in himself, but he believed in something bigger than himself, namely, “Jesus Christ and Him crucified,” (1 Cor. 2:2).

2. Nehemiah: “Build on what God has given you.”

His leadership was built not so much on ancestry from the Jewish lineage as by faithfulness. He would build the walls on faith. He was obscure in comparison to other great Old Testament heroes, but faithfulness separated him from mediocrity. God has given each leader specific gifts. Some are not as visible; all are useful.

3. Joshua: “Bring the best people to the table.”

Joshua had been in the presence of God. A theophany had taken place in Joshua 5:15: “The commander of the Lord’s army said to Joshua, “Remove the sandals from your feet, for the place where you are standing is holy.” And Joshua did so.”

Because of his special blessing, he was appointed as one with judicial powers and responsibilities in Joshua 14:6-15. He had a special place. He was courageous as indicated by the spy scenario in Numbers 13:31.

He was most likely the envy of other young leaders. But Moses brought him to the table of leadership because he was the best person for the job. My guess is that he had skills the like of which Moses himself admired, perhaps even envied.

4. Barnabas: “Bridge the gaps of differing opinions.”

He was nicknamed “son of encouragement” (Acts 4:36). He bridged the gaps between the Greek and Jewish worlds. Born a Cypriot and reared a Levite, he linked the Hellenistic world and the Jerusalem church. Even when John Mark was being severely ostracized by Paul, Barnabas stood by John Mark.

He was generous and that in itself bridges the gaps of selfish and greedy people if God’s grace is given the opportunity to be operative. He sold his land and gave it to the church treasury. He was not an “out front” kind of person, but rather stayed in the background as a fan and supporter of Paul. The most memorable aspect of effective leadership of a pastor is when he has survived the polarities of differing opinions and modeled having each side respect the other’s.

5. Moses: “Blind your eyes to petty criticism.”

Moses was seen as the patient leader of a people with little faith (Ex. 16:8, 16-20). His church was a murmuring people. They complained and whined at every inconvenience (Ex. 15:24; 16: 2-3). He did get disgusted. Remember, he struck the rock and disobeyed God, but his patience had worn thin. He had had enough.

Petty criticism wears on the leader. The wise leader will work hard at blinding his or her eyes to the pettiness of church members’ criticism. If that doesn’t work, he outlasts them. Just about every pastor has “struck the rock” at one time or another; but then, like Moses, the same pastor usually has the resilience to see things through. Nobody said it would be easy.

6. Elijah: “Bind the ties of love and courage.”

Today’s nomenclature calls it tough love. Some call it a tough mind and a tender heart. Elijah had both. He loved God. He had the courage to speak to the evils of his day. Where is your God, he asked. “Perhaps he’s sleeping and will wake up!” (1 Kings 18:27).

His sarcasm showed his disdain for those who had forsaken God. In every effective leader’s life, there is a time for love, but also a time for courage. It may not come quickly. It will, however, come eventually. If the leader becomes a wimp, he will lose his leadership role. Effective leaders have the courage to speak even when it is unpopular to speak because they speak the truth with love.

7. Peter: “Bounce back after you are knocked down.”

In Matthew 16, Peter was both a “rock” and a “stumbling block.” He was both blessed and disgraced almost in the same breath. It is enough to discourage any pastor. You are the foundation. You are the devil’s advocate. Discouraged by the disapproval of Jesus, yet blessed by the warmth and affection of Jesus. Resilience may be the cornerstone of effective leadership. One church member compliments your Sunday morning message, the next complains about your quoting Carl Jung because he is not a Christian.

Brooks Faulkner previously served as the senior pastoral ministry specialist for LifeWay Christian Resources.

The 4 ‘T’s of Talk

The 4 ‘T’s of Talk: a critical part of the art of communication

1. Time

WHEN is the best TIME to talk?

Sometimes there is never a ‘comfortable’ or ‘perfect’ time to talk about important stuff but there is usually a better time. Is always good rule of thumb to ask for permission to discuss a topic rather than be a time and space intruder.

Be sensitive to the timing ⏱️ and rhythm 🥁 of the conversation. I know I struggle with this but always remember God gave you 2 ears 👂👂 and 2 eyes 👁️👁️ yet just one mouth 👄 for a very good reason. Listen and observe twice if not four times as much as you talk. Thoughtful and open ended questions are so important. Remember, curiosity before judgement!

Remember the sound of silence is powerful; the powerful pause.

2. Tone

Keep in my WHY you are conversing and that will help ‘set, mirror and maintain the TONE‘.

Voice inflection and volume are critical elements to tone.

Check out this example:

I ran to the store. / I ran not the other guy.

I ran to the store. / I ran but I didn’t walk nor drive there.

I ran to the store. I went to the store not ordering online.

Isn’t the an interesting power of inflectional tone?

This is all about reading and listening between the word and lines. Also, pay attention to body language. NLP is a great way to help understand communication.

3. Technique

The is the HOW elements of conversation regarding the TECHNIQUES of using words, vocabulary, grammar, linguistics etc.

The biggest technique is the power of listening and being curious, as discussed previously.

One great method is to choose a Word to mindset on for a year along with expanding one’s vocabulary.

4. Truth

Yes, the truth matters…ultimately. ‘It is what it is’ is a popular saying as is ‘honesty is the best policy’ for good reason. With that said, the truth is not a license to be a jerk and insensitive.

In order to be a successful purveyor of the truth, we need to dwell in the land of reality and maintain a full, 360 degree holistic perspective while understanding the difference between fundamental principles and individual preferences; majors and minors.